Alternative:  A choice between 2 or more possibilities

B D S M

Our Chosen Alternative Lifestyle


 
BDSM stands for the 3 loosely knit areas of the pansexual,  Power Exchange Lifestyle that certain unique people know they are "destined" to live.  This feeling of destiny occurs at a far more primal level than that of simply making a choice.  For them it was meant to be from the beginning of their lives, or perhaps as some speculate, from the beginning of time.
  • B/d for Bondage and discipline; 
  • D/s  for Domination and submission; 
  • S/m for Sado-masochism (or s/M for slave and Master/Mistress).  
The D/s group within the Lifestyle is the most common, although some Lifestyler's lives may encompass 2, or even all 3 of the areas.  Devotees of the BDSM Lifestyle live strictly by the Rule:  "All interaction must be Safe, Sane and Consensual."   Remember:  If it is not Consensual - it is Abuse!

From the moment we are born until the moment we die, we either Control our lives and the lives of those around us or we are under the Control of others (be it parent,  teacher, boss, society, military superior, spouse or religious leader - to mention only a few).  For the unique few - the feeling of "having to Control", or "having to live under Control", is one that cannot be denied... it is essential to their existence. 

The search, for those of us within the Lifestyle, is for the opposite side to "our own personal coin" - the search for our other half - in order that, together, we may become one complete whole.  Because each of us finds ourselves in our own unique strata of need and experience, the search can sometimes be long - but is oh so definitely rewarding once our S/soulmate is found.  

After years of living in the Life with His former slave, Master Ara's search began after losing His 1st slave's service through illness.  kitte{AR}'s search began many years ago, after discovering the Life (which so completely explained her inner feelings) through literature... and continued fruitlessly until finding others in the Life, who befriended, guided and Mentored her on the net, over 4 years ago. 

Master Ara and kitte{AR} consider themselves more than fortunate for the discovery of each O/other and for the long careful journey they have taken together, often under the advisement and counsel of experienced Lifestyle F/friends.  A journey which proved their need was the same - the need to live within a loving Master/slave relationship - with 100% trust, 100% communication, 100% control and 100% commitment.

They have found their S/soulmates:  Their level of communication is excellent;  Their almost psychic bond grows stronger each day;  Their understanding of the Lifestyle matches to a "T";  and Their commitment to each O/other and to the Life is total and permanent.  They both wish all O/others, who find themselves in a similar search, to maintain hope and belief in the probability that, with dedication and persistence, they too will find their "other half".

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kitte{AR}'s Freely Offered Statement of Submission


i freely present this written and solemn vow to my Master, known to me by the name of (His Full Real Name/aka Master AraRenie).  From this time forward, i totally surrender control of my heart, mind and body to You and willingly enter into absolute loyal servitude unto You, striving to be the most perfect slave You could possibly have, agreeing to follow Your bidding and obey Your commands to the utmost of my ability.

On this day, i present myself in total submission to You, who shall from this day forward be known as my Master, to humbly beseech You to allow me to enter into service as Your slave, in order that i may serve You in any and all ways that You may command or find pleasing.

The following is a statement that defines my understanding of my slavery, unless You, my Master, should decide to change it and/or to decide to release me from my servitude unto You:

i understand that the purpose of my servitude is to satisfy our mutual desires - Yours, my Master, to control, and mine, to live under Your total control.  i undertake my role as Your slave eagerly with the understanding that our relationship, in all of its forms, will be Safe, Sane and Consensual. 

i understand, my Master, that as Your slave:

  • i am relinquishing total control of my body, will and life to You. 
  • i am placing my life into Your hands, to be used for Your pleasure, Your needs, Your comfort.
  • i will submit my body to You to slake Your passions, in whatever forms chosen by You.
  • i will always be ready to serve and please You, no matter how, when or where You choose.
  • i will willingly present myself to You for correction and/or punishment whenever i have failed You in complying with Your desires and instructions as well as i should have.
  • i will use our agreed upon safeword/sign to terminate any scene, where my personal limits are breeched, and then will abide by Your resolution to the situation.
  • i am Your property to do with as You choose.


i promise to You, my Master, that as Your slave/companion:

  • i will love, cherish and comfort You as a Man and serve You loyally, submissively, honestly and trustingly as my Master.
  • i will demonstrate my love, honor and respect for You with my words and my actions.
  • i will follow any and all of Your commands without question and to the best of my ability, with complete trust in Your wisdom.
  • i will educate myself in Your interests, in order that i may converse with You on any subject You may choose.
  • i will do my best to think concisely and to concisely state my opinions, when You seek knowledge of them, in order that our communication will always remain clear.
  • i will take pride and joy in myself as a person, as Your woman, as Your treasured slave.
  • i will care for You, Your needs, Your wants, Your home, Your family and Your friends.
  • i will be Your toy when You want to play; Your lover when You seek my tenderness.
  • i will always comport myself in public, with decorum and grace, unless otherwise dictated by You.
  • i will be Your submissive when You need to be Dominant; i will be Your strength when You need validation.
  • i will be Your confidante, Your listener, Your friend, the one You can turn to when the world turns its back.
  • i will not hesitate to bring You my concerns, doubts or questions, at appropriate times, and will abide by your decisions regarding them.
  • i will never fake my passion, my desire, nor my pleasure with You.
  • i will never abuse the use of our agreed upon safeword/sign, nor ask for an alternative.
i concede to You, my Master, that as a woman:
  • My inherent genetic design is to serve You as a Man, to enable You to enjoy Your strength, to exercise Your Mastery over me in all forms that suit You best.
  • My destiny is to give all that i have, all that i am - with a need to belong to You, my Master, who claims my body, while loving You, the Man, who claims my heart.
  • My path of submission and love to You, my Master, is the truest desire of my heart.
i, (full real name), as Your true slave, do vow to perform all acts stated above to the best of my ability for You, my Master.  i, also, vow to perform any that You may bring to my attention as having been left out of the above.  i will do Your bidding in all walks of my life. i willingly, freely and gratefully offer myself as slave to You, my Master, and as woman to You, the Man, who has captured my heart, love, admiration and respect.

Date: September 24, 1998 
  (Signed By) full real name   
aka:    kitte{AR}   
            
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The Master Nods


I listen to your statement of submission... I see your upturned face and pleading eyes.  I behold your adoration.  I am pleased by your attitude of subserviance.  Your  words and demeanor soften My heart.  I pull you close, I enfold you  in My protective aura;  I enclose you in My Robe of Mastery.  I take you  as My slave.  I reassure you of My Dominance, and take you for My own.  I place My mark upon your body and your heart.  I place the collar of your servitude..... My collar.... around your neck, and fasten it securely with the steel of its buckle and with the lock of My pledge to you.  you are My chosen slave... My treasured slave.  I shall guide, teach, and cherish you, and  relish your service.  I shall require  your pledged devotion and absolute submission.  I shall feed upon it, slaking My thirst and filling My being from it, and in return, shall  provide Mastery to you, Domination of you.  your well being is now close to My heart, and as your slaveMaster, I shall see to it ...... All these things are in My mind, as I take you..... as I allow you to serve Me..... "you are Mine, slave".

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